As the world grows more open to casual sex, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and other non-traditional dating styles, threesomes are becoming less scandalous and more commonplace.

Still, finding a threesome partner (or partners) can take a bit of effort, and it’s important to educate yourself before pulling the trigger to ensure the safety and comfort of all involved. This guide will introduce you to some of our favorite threesome apps and share tips for making your next ménage à trois the best it can be.

How to choose the right threesome dating app

Whether you’re a couple looking for a third or a single hoping to hook up with a fun partnered pair, your first question is probably how to find a threesome partner. 

Dating apps are a great place to start, but a little education will go a long way in helping you find the best threesome app for your needs.

Some of the factors to consider are privacy features (because not everyone needs to know your Friday night plans), a diverse user base (more options, more fun), and unique features (like group chats or preference filters).

If you’re part of an established couple, you also need to ensure your partner is on board with a threesome prior to downloading any apps. Communication and consent are crucial before the adventure begins, not just in the bedroom. We can promise you the experience will be best if everyone is on the same page.

Our 8 favorite threesome apps  

You can use any dating app to find threesome partners. As long as your profile makes it clear what you’re looking for, apps like Bumble and Tinder are acceptable places to start your search.

That said, you’ll have the best luck if you focus on apps with a higher concentration of users who share your goals. Here are some of our favorites.

1. #open

The creators of #open developed the app to give individuals and couples a place to explore open relationships, including threesomes, polyamory, and more.

We love #open for its emphasis on inclusion, identity, and respect, which are all essential to fostering a community of individuals who value a healthy sex life, regardless of the types of relationships they choose to take part in.

Download #open for iOS or Android.

2. Feeld

Billing itself as a “dating app for the curious,” Feeld curates safe, inclusive spaces both online and offline for people of every gender, sexual preference, and relationship style.

Many Feeld members have an interest in threesomes, so you’ll feel right at home joining the user base. Feeld also makes it easy to participate in virtual play with like-minded people all over the world.

Download Feeld for iOS or Android.

3. Grindr

Grindr isn’t just for threesomes or poly play, but as the self-proclaimed largest social networking app for gay, bisexual, and queer people, it’s a great place for LGBTQ+ people to find couples and thirds to play with.

Download Grindr for iOS or Android.

4. FetLife

For more than a decade, FetLife has catered to kink lovers, offering a swipe-based platform with a bustling social network. If adding a third to your duo is on the agenda, you'll find plenty of willing partners here. But heads-up: The “fet” in FetLife is short for fetish, so prepare for matches to bring their own twist to the party.

Download FetLife for Android.

5. SLS

Short for SwingLifeStyle, SLS is a subscription-based online dating site for swingers that’s been around since 2001. With millions of members and handy features like in-app video chat, you’re likely to find a threesome partner before your free trial ends. 

Download SLS for iOS or Android.

6. 3way

3way is another popular inclusive dating app for open-minded singles and couples. If you’ve used Tinder, 3way’s interface will look very familiar: Swipe right on the people you’re into and left on those you’re not.

Download 3way for iOS or Android. 

7. OkCupid

OkCupid (or OKC, as it’s commonly known) is popular for casual hookups, monogamy, and long-term relationships. But OKC welcomes all genders, sexualities, and relationship types, including non-monogamy.

While OKC doesn’t allow couple profiles, each member of a couple can create their own profile and select “non-monogamous” as their relationship type. The app will then tailor the search results to your preferences, weeding out singles uninterested in multi-partner play.

Download OkCupid for iOS or Android.

8. AdultFriendFinder

You can use a lot of the apps on this list to look for anything from hookups to marriage. But AdultFriendFinder (aka AFF) is all about no-strings-attached sex, and it’s a great place to look for swinger groups, threesomes, or other “non-traditional” relationship types.

AdultFriendFinder offers video chat, live webcam options, and access to live streams, giving members a single platform for meeting and watching sexy people who share their kinks.

Download AdultFriendFinder for iOS or Android.

Must-know tips for a good threesome experience

We’ve already touched on the importance of communication, and we can’t stress that enough — everyone involved needs to share their desires, boundaries, and expectations. Here’s what else you need to know.

Consent is key — from start to finish

Saying "yes" to the main event isn’t enough; you need to get ongoing consent for each act, each touch. Give your partners the space to call a time-out or change their minds at any point, and keep checking in with each other throughout the encounter.

Safety is a must

Talking about protection and sexual health might not be sexy or fun, but potential partners who don’t take this topic seriously aren’t the kind of partners you want to jump in bed with. Discuss condoms, dental dams, and any other safety measures you'll use to keep things healthy and enjoyable. And remember, it's not just about physical safety; consider emotional safety, too.

Expect the unexpected

Set realistic expectations — don’t assume your threesome will look like a scene from a steamy movie. You’ll also want to figure out what you’ll do if things don’t go to plan. What happens if someone feels left out or if jealousy gets in the way? Talk through these potential scenarios with your partners beforehand to reach a mutual understanding of how you might proceed (or pause). Having a game plan will make things less awkward and help everyone feel more at ease.

Explore your fantasies with Quinn

You don’t have to wait until you’ve found partners to fill out your triad to take part in this sexual fantasy — threesomes are a popular category in porn and erotica. Quinn, the audio erotica app created by women for the world, puts threesome fantasies at your fingertips. You can even listen to erotica while swiping for partners!

If you’re interested in couples erotica, bisexual performers, or sensory play, the wide range of erotic content on Quinn is a great place to start. To access thousands of audio stories and guided masturbation sessions, download the Quinn app for iOS or Android.