It’s hard to connect with your partner when you can’t be in the same room. Even with sexting, phone sex, and FaceTime, it's hard to keep the flame alive with distance between you because it's just not the same. 

Enter: long-distance sex toys. 

These innovative little gadgets are so technologically advanced they'll blow your mind (in more ways than one). Sex toys aren't just for going solo anymore — they're high-tech, app-powered, and ready to get your long-distance relationship back on track.  

8 features to look for in long-distance sex toys  

Many long-distance couple toys aim to replicate the thrill of face-to-face intimacy. Most use remote controls and smartphones to make the experience interactive, so a partner can control your toy from miles away. It’s a closeness you can really feel. 

To select a toy that works for you, your partner, and your distance, look for these key features: 

1. App-enabled connectivity: The best long-distance vibrators and other sex toys connect seamlessly to dedicated apps. A solid connection is essential — you don’t want the app to fail when you’re deep in the moment. Look for toys praised for their reliable app connections and minimal technical problems. 

2. Long-distance control: Choose sex toys that can connect from anywhere in the world. This feature allows you and your partner to give and receive pleasure at the touch of a finger, no matter how much physical distance is between you. Bluetooth is good, but the connection only lasts for a couple of yards, not hundreds of miles.

3. Synchronized sensations: Some toys offer real-time synchronization with your partner's movements or responses, which creates a realistic, intimate experience. This feature replicates the give-and-take of in-person sex, helping you feel like you're in the same room together. 

4. Customizable vibrations: Personalizing vibration patterns can enhance stimulation and help you and your partner discover what feels best. Choose a sex toy offering a spectrum of intensities and rhythms, and you'll always have a great option no matter what kind of mood you're in. 

5. Music sync: Some long-distance smart sex toys vibrate in sync with music. This feature adds a unique, creative layer to your sessions, whether you're vibing along to pulsating dance beats or a slow, romantic song. 

6. Alarm functionality: Waking up to an orgasm from your partner is the next best thing to intercourse. This feature turns your long-distance sex toy into the most pleasant wake-up call imaginable, buzzing or making a noise when your faraway partner’s ready to use it. 

7. Voice and video chat integration: Long-distance sex toys that connect to voice and video chat apps bring you closer to your partner. This technology bridges the gap between virtual and physical intimacy, allowing you to see and hear each other’s pleasure for a sexier experience. 

8. Body-safe materials: Choosing sex toys made from body-safe materials is non-negotiable. These materials, like body-safe silicone, are free from harmful chemicals, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean. 

5 best long-distance sex toys   

App-controlled vibrators and other sex toys offering vaginal, anal, and erogenous zone stimulation perfectly complement long-distance intimacy. Whether your current line-up pulls out all the stops from nudes to dirty talk or needs some help, learning how to use these interactive sex toys is a fun way to get closer. 

Here are our top five toys for couples at a distance. Honorable mentions include the Domi 2 by Lovense, a couples' Bluetooth wand massager, the Diamo by Lovense, a vibrating Bluetooth cock ring, and the Lelo Tiani 3, a remote-controlled clitoral and G-spot vibrator. We recommend trying a few to see what works best for you. When it comes to sex toys, the more the merrier!

1. Lovense Dolce

The Lovense Dolce is a remote-controlled, dual-ended vibrator offering G-spot and clitoral stimulation simultaneously. This versatile toy is app-enabled, allowing for creative long-distance play, and the ideal choice for people with vaginas who prefer blended orgasms.  

The Dolce's unique U-shape allows for a custom fit to the vulva, and it has a customizable vibration mode — you and your partner can program 10 favorite patterns in the app. It's an excellent choice for couples exploring together, with a Bluetooth chip and the newest generation antenna for solid connectivity.  

Pros: Powerful dual stimulation, extensive app features

Cons: Limited presets, some reviewers say it’s too loud and strong 

Price: $229

2. Kiiroo Onyx+ and Pearl2 

This dynamic duo from Kiiroo is a powerhouse for long-distance couples' play. The Onyx+ is a sophisticated penile masturbator that offers a real-feel experience, with a rotating motor and a speed of up to 140 strokes per minute. It feels similar to a vibrating fleshlight. 

The Onyx+ stroker has a touchpad for controlling the Pearl2, a sleek G-spot stimulator with touch-sensitive technology. The combo is built to feel like you’re having sex IRL — and it delivers. Pair both toys with your favorite water-based lube and you’ll feel closer than ever.

Pros: Luxurious, interactive, USB rechargeable

Cons: Higher price range

Price: $398

3. Satisfyer Curvy 2+ 

The Satisfyer Curvy 2+'s stunning combination of air-pulse technology and vibration makes it a stand-out couples' sex toy. It has suction that mimics oral sex, and it's ergonomically designed for comfortable use. It's also easy to clean, rechargeable, and can be used without the app, too. 

The Satisfyer Curvy 2+ is controlled via the free Satisfyer Connect app. The app allows your partner to play with the toy's two motor settings, six vibration patterns, and 11 intensities from wherever they are. This makes it an excellent erotic massager for couples seeking unique stimulation. 

Pros: Unique air-pulse technology, waterproof, affordable 

Cons: Not as discreet as some suction toys 

Price: $89.95 

4. Lovense Lush 3  

The Lush 3 is a popular Bluetooth remote-controlled vibrator from Lovense. Powerful and discreet, this couples’ sex toy is designed for extended wear, offering whisper-quiet operation that doesn't exceed 43 decibels. The Lush 3's rumbly, deep vibrations put direct pressure on the G-spot, which can make for incredibly strong orgasms. 

With the Lush 3, your partner can use unlimited vibration patterns for maximum fun, and it has an impressive battery life for prolonged play. This fully programmable, waterproof sex toy has impressive short- and long-range ranges, so no matter where you are, you and your partner will stay connected.

Pros: Discreet, powerful, extended battery life

Cons: Primarily for internal use

Price: $229  

5. We-Vibe Moxie+

The We-Vibe Moxie+ is a discreet panty vibrator with a remote for adventurous couples. This panty vibrator is designed to be worn comfortably in underwear, secured by a magnetic clip. It offers exciting, hands-free pleasure, with vibrations that are whisper-quiet but powerful. Your partner can operate it via the remote control or the We-Connect app — but that doesn’t mean you can’t use it for solo play, too.

The ergonomic We-Vibe Moxie+ is waterproof, adjustable, and made from body-safe silicone. This toy is rechargeable and tiny, so why not add it to your day-to-day with your long-distance partner to make things a bit sexier?

Pros: Discreet, wearable, remote and app-controlled, whisper-quiet for public play

Cons: May not provide intense stimulation for those who prefer powerful vibrators

Price: $139

Have better sex with Quinn 

If you love experimenting sexually with your partner, take things a step further with Quinn. 

Quinn's audio erotica is the perfect ethical porn for enhancing your sex life, whether you’re with a long-distance partner or riding solo from your bedroom. It's an exciting addition to gadgets, FaceTime, and sexting that will help you get to know one another's sexual preferences and fantasies.

The Quinn platform was created by women, for everyone. Its narrated sex stories, guided masturbation sessions, and playlist are perfect for listening to while you use long-distance sex toys together. To get to know Quinn, download the app for iOS or Android.