If you’re a fan of Quinn’s erotic audios or follow our blog, you’re well aware that we’re big fans of switching up sex positions to tap into new sensations.

But here’s the thing: Unless you’re practicing BDSM, sex shouldn’t be uncomfortable. And while our favorite creative sexual positions help ramp up the pleasure, they might cause discomfort or even pain if you don’t have the proper support.

Enter the unsung hero of sex toys: the sex pillow. It’s adventurous sex — but make it cozy.

What’s a sex pillow?

A sex pillow is a pillow made of stuffing or foam that has a specific shape specifically for sexual support. They usually have more structure than a regular pillow because the goal is that they keep their shape and support you while you’re doing the deed. You can place one under your torso, chest, or legs to help you and your partner reach new angles and spots — like the G-spot or A-spot (or even P-spot).

How many types of sex pillows are there?

We have seven options on this list, but it’s not totally comprehensive. If you’ve ever shopped for a high-quality bed pillow, you know the options go way beyond a feather-filled cotton shell. The same is true for sex pillows, which come in all shapes, sizes, and hardnesses. 

Here’s a rundown of the various types and what they’re best for:

1. Wedge pillow

A wedge pillow is all about angles. The high-density foam design elevates and supports, enhancing penetration and stimulation. It’s perfect for positions like missionary or doggy style, offering deeper, more satisfying experiences.

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Pro tip: Our favorite sex wedge, the Liberator Jaz Motion Rocking Sex Position Cushion, is even more fun than the name suggests. 

2. Ramp pillow

A larger version of the wedge, ramp pillows take things up a notch, providing full-body support for more adventurous positions while allowing for pain-free extended sessions.

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Pro tip: The Liberator Sex Position Wedge Ramp Combo gets you a sex ramp and wedge pillow in one. 

3. Positioning pillow

Positioning pillows come in various shapes, like the moon pillow or the half moon, which support the pelvis or hips. They provide a cushion for extended play, ensuring the comfort of both partners.

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Pro tip: An inflatable pillow is the perfect discreet option for romantic getaways. We love the easy-to-inflate Fetish Fantasy Ultra Inflatable Position Master. 

4. Cylindrical pillow

Have you ever swiped a bolster from the couch for a little extra sexual support? With a cylindrical pillow, you don’t have to. Cylindrical options are great for supporting the knees or elevating the butt to add a little extra oomph to your most intimate moments.

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Pro tip: Add another inflatable pillow to your sex toy arsenal with the TOUGHAGE Sex Pillow for Couples. 

5. Bondage pillow

Fans of BDSM know that pain and pleasure sometimes go hand in hand. A bondage pillow makes it easy to walk the line, offering easy positioning and handcuffs or other restraints to give you and your partner total control over your comfort.

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Pro tip: The Bedroom Bliss XL Bondage Cushion does double duty as a wedge pillow and BDSM toy, with adjustable wrist and ankle cuffs that you can attach to the cushion’s velvet sides. 

6. Massage pillow

Many sex pillows make a full-body massage easier and more enjoyable, and that’s a great way to make your whole body feel good. Dame’s wedge-shaped Pillo pairs wonderfully with massage oil and a strong pair of hands. But if you want to hone in on the erogenous zones with some vaginal massage, look for a massage pillow with a handy-dandy wand massager or dildo pocket.

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Pro tip: We love the versatility of the Liberator Wanda riding pillow, which supports many different positions and is compatible with most dildos and wand massagers. 

7. Stool or chair pillows

A sex stool or chair makes oral, anal, and positions like cowgirl easier and more enjoyable. But you can make the experience more comfortable for the non-seated partner by combining your stool with a sex cushion. Yes, you could totally use your couch cushion, but you don’t want your mother-in-law sitting on it next time she comes over for Thanksgiving.

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Pro tip: The Liberator Humphrey Toy Mount Sex Pillow is a versatile option that you can use with or without a sex stool.

How to use a sex pillow

Want the best sex pillow experience possible? Follow these steps to choose the right option and use it effectively.

1. Choose the right pillow

Start by deciding why you’re buying a pillow. Is there a specific position you want to try? Do you want to up the ante with restraints? Or do you just want to be cozy and comfortable? 

Choose one that can fulfill your unique needs and desires. A wedge option like the Dame Pillo is great for elevating the hips, while a sex ramp offers full-body support. Consider the material, too — a foam pillow provides firm support, while inflatables offer adjustable firmness (and easier travel).

2. Communicate with your partner

If you’re buying solo, you can skip this step. But if you want to get an intimate pillow with a specific partner — especially one you live with — talk to them about it first. Start a conversation about what positions you want to explore and how kinky you both want to go so you can make the experience positive for everyone involved.

3. Don’t let embarrassment stop you

If you’re new to sex toys, whether it’s pillows, vibrators, or whatever other tools you think might enhance your pleasure, it’s not uncommon to feel a little embarrassed. But don’t let that hold you back from having a good time. While you can shop for sex pillows in person, you’ll find lots of great options online, and most shops send out their orders in discreet packaging to ensure your neighbors will be none the wiser. 

4. Start slowly and make adjustments when needed

Gradually incorporate sex pillows into your routine by starting with familiar positions, like using a wedge for missionary or a ramp for deeper doggy-style penetration. As you and your partner grow more comfortable, you can introduce more advanced pillow styles and explore more complex positions. Trying to become gymnasts right away could just set you both up for disappointment.

5. Experiment with solo play

Sex pillows aren’t just for couples; they’re also great for enhancing masturbation sessions. A half-moon pillow is a good choice for casual self-pleasure, allowing for easy experimentation with different positions and angles. For those looking to simulate sex, a dildo tucked into the pocket of a riding pillow can feel just like straddling a partner — no real penis required.

6. Practice aftercare

We’re advocates of sexual aftercare — the practice of tending to one another’s physical and emotional needs after intercourse and other sexual activities. But when you use sex pillows or other toys, there’s another kind of aftercare you need to build into your routine: sanitation. 

Post-intimacy, it’s crucial to clean your pillow according to the manufacturer’s directions, especially if it doesn’t have a washable cover. Proper hygiene is key to preventing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and ensuring the pillow lasts for the long haul.

Set the mood with Quinn

Erotica is the perfect way to make your solo or partnered play even more stimulating. That’s why we made Quinn, the audio erotica app created by women, for the world. If you’re interested in sensory play, couples’ erotica, or foreplay inspiration, the wide range of erotic content on Quinn is a great place to start.

To access thousands of audio stories and guided masturbation sessions, download the Quinn app for iOS or Android.